Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Cranky is as cranky does...

After such a lovely weekend away for our anniversary two weeks ago, III has been ... let's say unpleasant to be around.

For a while, I thought he was upset with me about something- he doesn't always share. Turns out it was partially work, and partially Peanut.

Saturday, he ended up having to work from 2pm-4:30am. So he took yesterday off. I thought it would be good- a chance for a break for him on his own. Everyone needs their alone time, right?

He was a little better. A little. Finally, last night I asked him how he was feeling about Peanut. He said "okay". He thinks she's a spaz but she's getting better. Then I said "What about me? You just don't seem to like me very much lately." He said "It's just hard because work has been hard and then I come home and with Peanut now it doesn't feel like a haven." I agree with him that for the first week, it was stressful, but now? She's still tough but not for him. He does none of the work with her. It's all me. So I said "I think she's much better," and he says "Yeah, she's just so much work."

Um. Huh. If you think a 7 month old dog is a lot of work, what do you think is going to happen when we have an infant??? You better buck up, buddy.

I feel like all I do lately is waver between being irritated with him and trying not to upset him. Last night, I took Peanut after her 1am poopie trip and slept in the spare room. So I don't know what he's complaining about.


c by the sea said...

it's so funny- anytime you write about III, i can so relate about things that happen with my own husband. what is it with men that they grump around and never talk about what's bothering them? and what is it with us sensitive women that we care so much about why they are upset and take it so personally? it's so frustrating some times. i hope he gets out of his mood soon :)

irrationalexuberance said...

I am with you, too -- i know it's super frustrating to know that something is wrong (usually from moping around sulking) but not discussed.

And I, too, have thought, "you can't take the dog out and we are trying to have a baby?!?"

What works for me is just giving him space. It isn't always super fun, and it's kinda lonely, but we always come out ok on the other side.

Good luck!

michelle said...

I believe that guys unlike women process things as they are happening or even after the fact. Women tend to anticipate how they will feel, men not so much.

Mrs. Gamgee said...

I hope that he's able to make an emotional connection with Peanut soon... that might help him accept the challenges of a young dog.