Sunday, August 22, 2010

Stuck in the middle...

I was in Ko.hls the other day, shopping for some clothes. (We sent two boxes of stuff home before we knew we'd be staying, and I'm very short on t-shirts.) As went looking for a slim fitting t-shirt that wasn't too tight or too short, I realized- I feel like I'm in this weird place where I'm too old for Juniors, but too young for Misses. (At least the Misses they sell at Ko.hls.)

In the car on the way home from visiting FIL, III and I were talking about how we feel that way about our life right now. III's cousin and her husband are still in that early marriage phase where they're are kind of "playing house" and exploring their neighborhood. His closest friends out here have kids. We're floating somewhere in the middle... We're settled in to our lives and ready for kids, but... we don't have any.

There's the 'expected' path you follow (especially out here where we grew up), and we're stalled between two stages.

Back home, we have 2 other couples with whom we are friendly who are in a similar boat. Luckily, we are able to see them fairly regularly. But this summer, being out here away from our usual group of friends it's felt really obvious. And really lonely.

10 comments:

Kakunaa said...

Being in between is so hard. Time to start a new trend! HUGS

Krystal said...

It sucks being in the middle, that's for sure. Wishing you well and hope you find some great groups to hang out with!

Elise said...

You are not alone in feeling 'in between.' I feel like that to at times.
Thanks for commenting on my blog. As for fostering dogs, I've only fostered one so far and I thought it would be easy to give her up since we only had her for a month(she was just adopted when we took her in). But surprisingly, it was very hard to give her up. I was mostly scared for her because I didn't want her thinking we WANTED to give her away. It was hard to give her up, but then I thought about the places she might be and what she would be doing if she didn't stay with us, and that she got so much love from us that it makes it all worthwhile. It's worth it and a selfless act.
Sorry that was so long =)

ICLW

Gabbina said...

I'm not in your same boat, since i'm not trying to have kids. I can only say hang in there. It'll get better.

-A friend from ICLW.

Jessica said...

My DH & I feel exactly the same way...stuck in the middle. It sucks!!

stacie said...

I can totally relate; I've been feeling stuck in the middle for too many years now. I hope things get easier for you.

infertilefollies said...

Yes, I am there too. Our expected path is just not happening right now, and not by our choice. It's hard. But you are not alone!

infertilefollies said...

Yes, I am there too. Our expected path is just not happening right now, and not by our choice. It's hard. But you are not alone!

Lacie said...

The loneliness is one of the worst parts of this journey.

I am sorry to hear that its easy to feel that way for you these days.

Best of luck in your journey.

Whitney said...

I can definitely relate to that feeling. We're kind of stuck in the middle too, though I feel like we're more behind than anything.

I just have to keep remembering that everyone has their own journey to take, and we shouldn't compare ourselves to others. We'll never be them, they'll never be us, and everyone has a different set of circumstances to get them where they are. Don't forget it! ;)